Moving On

We have here a message from a guy who says that his woman cheated on him, physically and therefore also emotionally. It’s pretty raw and bleeding and it’s about a situation that far too many men experience, one way or the other. She cheated. She promised the world, then handed it to some random “gym dude”. Man it sucks to be in this position. I understand how it feels and I feel for the man. This is why I always emphasize learning about the three stages of relationship dynamics so you don’t be in this guy’s position, the pickup, dating, & relationship stage.

Breakups are normal. It’s essential for growth as a person. It’s normal to feel lost, isolated, and lose your self-confidence as a man after losing a relationship. It’s part of life. It makes you look at yourself, forces you to learn something new in hopes that you learn from it, change for the better, and become a new person. What is not natural is to go against reality. To force yourself where you’re not wanted and appreciated. This will only make things worse for you. It sounds easy when you’re facing it but deep down you know that it’s not good for you. In a breakup, you are always forced to choose between two choices. One would be to look at yourself, see what you did wrong, and change for the better. It’s not gonna be easy as you know but change and pain is essential for growth. Or choose the unhealthy option which is to fill your mind with delusions and force yourself where you are not wanted, to feed your ego, and mask the problem with addictions and whatever gives you artificial pleasure. Remember that not doing anything about changing is a choice that you are choosing as well.