First Dates

It’s very common for men to misinterpret being “nice” from being “good”. These are two very different things. We have here a guy who just explains it very well. It’s funny but in reality, common sense is not common at all.

We have here a guy who said that he went on a date with this girl. He felt a “perfect vibe”, “effortless conversation”, and “real chemistry”. That’s what he said here in his message. After the date, he said that it was a fun date, that he had fun and all that, even got a text when she got home. Then after the message, silence. Now he is confused, replaying every moment, wondering if he misread everything. Sound familiar?

I got a message from one of you guys that perfectly captures the frustrations that many young men feel. He’s 25, doesn’t drink or smoke, hates bars and clubs, and feels like there are no opportunities to meet women who actually want a genuine relationship. He’s tired of the “sex, drugs, alcohol” culture, and wants a stable and long-term relationship. He is concerned about all of these and he feels that he is drained and stuck in tha routine and he wants a change. First off, man, I just want to say that what you’re feeling is valid. You are not alone on this. Like many others and like you reading this newsletter most likely have trouble finding a woman and find yourself in a loving and healthy relationship. It’s normal to look around, see what you think everyone else has, and feel completely lost and worried that you are not getting the same in life. You’re bombarded with fake realities on social media, and if you’re an introverted guy who doesn’t fit the party scene, it can feel like the game is rigged against you. But here’s the reality and this is crucial. In my opinion, I think you’re a much better starting point to be in than the others. Why? Because you’re seeing the BS clearly and that you’re craving for a change meaning that you are more driven to become better. First step to change is to identify and look at yourself and question yourself what you’re doing wrong and this is what you’ve done. You’re rejecting the superficial. You want something real. And that’s exactly what high-quality women are looking for too.

I found a message from one of the guys that will hit home for a lot of younger guys out there. Or older virgins out there. He’s 19, frustrated, feels like he’s hopeless with women, and he’s still a virgin. A lot of men have this anxious feeling and they feel like they are under performing in the women category compared to their peers or friends. He feels like girls have huge egos, everyone’s taken, and there are “never any opportunities that go for him. I’ve been in your situation so I completely understand what you’re feeling, don’t worry. The guys also specifically said, “PLEASE don’t tell me things like ‘get a good career and make money’ because stuff like that doesn’t seem true. I’ve seen so many guys who aren’t rich or 6ft tall who have girlfriends or had girlfriends or just casual sex”. I know the answer for this and we’ll break down his message, give you insights and things that you can do to get laid and get a woman.

I found a challenge that a lot of you men that lead to my website and newsletter can benefit from. It’s one of the biggest questions out there for men that are timid, shy, have no experience, and have no previous intimate relationship with women yet and it’s “How Would You Teach Men To Pursue Sexual Relationships? Is it even possible to take an ‘average’ man and not be very good looking to get him into a sexual relationship within 6 months?”. The challenge came with a twist and it says that if he “smashes,” I win a million dollars. So, you know I’m invested.

What you need to understand first is that women who are in their feminine energy are attracted to a man in his masculine energy. Masculine energy is an energy that is outward. An energy that shows that he is confident, has a purpose, stable in his life, independent, self-sufficient, content with how his life is, and has emotional control. So the idea is if you want to find a woman, then your focus first should be is to work on yourself first. Remember that a woman wants a man who loves and takes care of himself. A woman will be repelled if you are desperate and if she can sense that you are looking for another “mommy” to take care of you and give pity for you. She wants a strong man that she can depend on so that she can open herself up and relax  with his presence and know that he can take care of everything.