Mastering Work-Life Balance and Relationships

We have here a 32-year-old man, and he just found out that his wife of 18 months is talking and telling a new male “friend” online that she isn’t married. He said it’s “just friendly”, that there are no sexual remarks, or no plans to meet but I say otherwise. He is uncomfortable, like any many in this situation would be. The truth? This isn’t about “uncomfortable”. This is a big red flag.

We have a message here from a guy who is stuck in a relationship with a girl where she and her friend went over to this two other guys’ house, and he claims that her friend “hooked up” with one of the other guys and claims that she “didn’t do anything” that night. “Aw man” situation here but that’s alright because we are going to break it down and analyze it.

Let’s talk about “red flags” and what is toxic. You hear that term thrown around like candy these days on the internet. “Oh, she texted me twice in a row, red flag! She’s being too needy!”, “She cried on the second date, huge red flag!”, “She asked about being exclusive after a month of dating, red flag, abort, abort!”. I always call out real bullshit because it teaches the wrong idea in the dating world. The women suffer and the men suffer, it’s not good for anybody. Especially nowadays that there’s not many real, deep, and intimate romantic relationships. You know I always teach you to walk away from drama, narcissists, and women who don’t treat you with respect. It’s never a good idea and I would never recommend staying in relationships that are like that. But the real red flags that are actually red flags are about manipulation, dishonesty, disrespect, or consistent drama. That’s when you bounce and that’s when you should walk away.

We have a message here from a guy who wrote a classic situation that many young men find themselves in, especially when facing life transitions. His 24-year-old girlfriend, whom he’s been dating for 10 months, wants him, a 19 year old man turning 20 soon, and she insists on moving in with her. His parents want him to either pay rent or move out at 20, and he admits that he’s scared to move in with his girlfriend, even though he can’t quite articulate and say what and why he’s feeling this way. He’d rather find a way to pay rent at home  because that makes him more confident because he is uncertain to move out yet. This is a critical moment for a young man, and how you handle it will set the tone for your relationship and your life. Especially to other young men reading this, take some pointers and maybe you’ll learn some and that you can use it for your life.

Let’s talk about a situation that many of you might find yourselves in, and how to handle it like a man of value. A reader wrote in with a very common dilemma that I’m assuming most of you would have also experienced. Usually, when a woman leaves the guy and the guy is clueless to what happened, this is typically what leads you to do your research on how to get her back. It’s always unsettling when a girl leaves you, I’ve been there and have done that. Rejection breeds obsession. With the guy here on our newsletter, his long-term girlfriend has been actively searching for and messaging her exes on social media, guys that are her old one-night stand, ex boyfriends, and sexting buddies. He claims that he’s aware that she has been unfaithful to her previous relationships and he thought that she had changed. For you reading this, this should be a good reminder for you guys to avoid this from happening to you. You have to understand that people never change. You have to see people for who they are. You have to understand that even if you catch them doing something that you don’t like and have a big argument about it, they’ll only change and curate an image for you but behind the scenes they’ll only hide it better. People don’t change.